On the 5th day I didn’t get Rings

Dustythe journey continues, Uncategorized 5 Comments

December 5th


I wear two.

I wear my own and I wear Marks on my right middle finger. I love them. Someone gave Mark a liturgy book when he was sick. I never looked at it but thought it was pretty and then Cora was sending me a gift when she was in Kosovo because a friend there had a liturgy book and she thought I’d like it. It was the same book! I told her to cancel the order and I’ll gift dads to me. It’s really a beautiful book and there is a section “For Removing One’s Wedding Rings”. I read it and it was so sad to me. I don’t want to ever take them off. I was telling this to my friends…and it made me sad just to talk about it and they told me I don’t have to. This I know…but I have started to wonder when and if people ever do that. I just don’t want to do that.

Here is the liturgy if you want to read it.

My ring has a story to it….it means alot to me just like the person who gave it to me. I’m not a huge jewelry fan. I don’t need flashy and fancy and I don’t need alot. I would never spend my extra money on bling. I’ve never been like that. When Mark went shopping for my ring…FIRST OF ALL, I had no idea and I did not pick it out. I didn’t know he was going to propose to me. He went to the store and found the perfect ring for me all by himself. He found an estate ring from the 1800’s called a basket ring. It’s so perfect for me. It had history and a story well before mine, I just added to it and maybe one day someone else will add to it again. I didn’t want another ring at the wedding ceremony to add to this one so I just had him place the same ring on my finger. I bought Mark’s…nothing too fancy but I tend to try to stay away from doing the same things everyone else does. So his is inscribed on the inside and its titanium (light and strong) with a gold ring around the middle. I hear so many stories about how women will go pick their ring out even before they are engaged and the guy is suppose to then propose to her with it. ???? I think that’s lame. I mean if you happen to be somewhere and she happens to point out something pretty….make a memory and then go back but I do not think that she needs to pick it out…before or after. And I personally wouldn’t want to know I was going to be proposed to. I mean, I think it goes back to the whole..is it the marriage and union you want..or the ring? So what if he picks something out that isn’t out of this world?! If you are crazy about the man then does it matter? So, yeah my ring doesn’t matter. The relationship does…but I don’t have the relationship anymore so I want to the ring.

Today is Baby Day. Tuesdays I hang with Kiyah. This is the fun age. Where they are really learning and mimicking and so much fun.

“Finally, brethen, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if theer is any excellece and if anything worthy of praise, DWELL on these things.” Phillipians 4:8

Comments 5

  1. Thanks for sharing! I know widows who never take their ring off. They are still in love with their spouse.
    Dale picked my rings out too!

  2. So hard. I saw a ring that reminded me of yours in Tennessee at a consignment shop about a year ago. It was beautiful. You’ll know the right thing for for. Wear it for a long as you need, or forever.

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  3. I love this sweet story of the rings! Like you, I’m old fashioned about the surprise proposal and his choice of rings. If ever there comes a time for you to remove it, you will know it and have peace about it.
    Larry ( at work) lost his first two wedding rings, and went without one for years. Last year, I found him a nice ring with onyx in it, at an antiques store. He likes to wear it everywhere but at work, and I love to see him wearing it. Giving it to him felt like saying “I still do.”

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